Try This: The next time you start to worry about what other people think of you, say this little script to yourself: I may not like caring about what other people think of me, but it’s perfectly normal and okay for me to feel this way. Instead, if you can learn to accept the fact that it’s normal and okay to care about what other people think of you, you’ll stop getting lost in all those unproductive mental patterns that blow your emotional response out of proportion. When you assume it’s bad to be concerned with what others think, you end up feeling bad about feeling bad, which dramatically increases how bad you feel. Instead, what bothers them is the huge wave of anxiety, shame, disappointment, and all the other difficult emotions that go along with it.Īll this excessive emotionality comes not so much from your basic instinct to care about what others think of you (something all of us have), but instead, is the result of assuming it’s bad to care about what others think of you. My experience is that most people aren’t really bothered by caring about what other people think of them. Accept that it’s okay to care about what others think of you Here are a few of my quick thoughts on the question: 1. How can I stop caring so much about what other people think of me? Several of you have emailed me recently with a similar question:
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